It’s like ‘When Harry Met Sally’, but in real life – you were just friends with someone for years and years, you knew all their unsavoury habits, you wished you could fancy them but you never did – until one day, you suddenly do, and by some miracle, they like you too.
So you’ve started dating your best friend, and it’s weird, wonderful and definitely takes some getting used to. You (hopefully) don’t need to have the ‘are we boyfriend and girlfriend? Things progress pretty quickly You’ve been best friends for ten years, so that’s basically like dating for ten years, right?
But what if you were already best friends from the start?
There are our college friends, our BFFs since we can remember, work-colleagues-turned-friends, and everything in between.
For the most part, those parties don’t mingle all too often.
And you’ll probably recognise all these signs that it’s really happening… Dating is funny The first time you go on a date, you both just spend the whole time laughing at the situation – why is this dinner different to all the other times you got a pizza, drank some wine and moaned about your job? Your first kiss isn’t awkward Which is a major shock. You don’t have to go through that tricky ‘getting to know each other’ phase Because you already know all each other’s bad habits, you know how to deal with them and you can cut the ‘where do you want to be in five years’ time? ’ conversation Because you wouldn’t have got into this in the first place if you didn’t think it was going somewhere. But you probably will have a ‘will this ruin our friendship? You know all each other’s secrets When someone brings up an ex by mistake, or something embarrassing from your partner’s past, neither of you gets upset – after all, you were the one getting the late-night calls about it when you were just friends. No one will believe you were ever just friends No matter how long you were really just friends for, and no matter how many other serious relationships took place during that time, when you announce you’re together, everyone will think this affair has been secretly going on for years. Your exes will be furious ‘I always knew you liked each other!
’ conversation Because that’s what happens in movies when best friends get together, so it’s compulsory. You wonder why this didn’t happen years earlier And save you both wasting years and years on people who weren’t good enough, didn’t actually like you that much or even broke your heart. No one will ever believe you are together Years later, when you are married with three children, your old friends will still look at you and say ‘Really? ’ will be the phrase du jour, even though you swear you really, really didn’t. There’s no awkward ‘meeting the parents’ dinner Because you’ve known them for years, and they always secretly hoped you guys would date. You’ll tell all your other friends to date their friends So much easier!